“How blessed are those who mourn!
for they will be comforted.”
When you’re in the throws of loss and grief the idea of feeling comforted seems almost impossible. The unimaginable loss of a child, unexpectedly becoming a widow, watching a loved one take their last breath…only the miraculous hand of God could carry us through this.
After praying for God to speak into His promise of finding comfort in the midst of loss, I was led to John 6. When I first read this chapter, I wasn’t exactly sure why He led me here but, once again, the Holy Spirit revealed a deeper meaning.
“When evening came, his talmidim (disciples) went down to the lake, got into a boat and set out across the lake toward K’far-Nachum. By now it was dark, Yeshua (Jesus) had not yet joined them, and the sea was getting rough, because a strong wind was blowing. They had rowed three or four miles when they saw Yeshua approaching the boat, walking on the lake! They were terrified; but he said to them, “Stop being afraid, it is I.” Then they were willing to take him into the boat, and instantly the boat reached the land were heading for.” John 6:16-21
After praying, the Holy Spirit was faithful to provide understanding. When we are mourning it feels incredibly dark. A full eclipse of light. And as we’re journeying, the waters we’re passing through feel rough. The wind and waves of our loss working against us, hitting us head on and the idea of feeling comfort seems too hard…too impossible.
The disciples were rowing in the dark, through rough seas and strong winds to get to K’far-Nachum. One has to wonder why they didn’t wait till morning when they could see more clearly, or wait for the wind and sea to calm before heading out.
It was important for them to get to K’far-Nachum. Why?
In Hebrew K’far-Nachum means “Village of Nahum”. Nahum was an Israeli prophet and his name in Hebrew means “Comfort” or “Full of Comfort”.
Out of all the pages in His Holy Word He could’ve opened me up to speak into the process of mourning and grief He leads me here…and now I know why.
Jesus’ disciples were rowing tirelessly at night, in the dark, in rough seas and high winds to go to the Village of Comfort.
But again, when we’re grieving, it feels impossible to deeply and truly feel a genuine comfort.
That is why, like the disciples on the Sea of Galilee , Jesus comes to our rescue knowing, in our own strength, getting to the Village of Comfort is near impossible. So He shows up in the middle of our rough seas walking on water.
He whispers to the depths of our soul, “Stop being afraid, it is I.”
Are you willing to take him into your boat?
He didn’t force himself upon them. They had to be willing to take him into the boat before He could enter.
So be willing, because if you are, then and only then will you reach the Village of Comfort.
“…and instantly the boat reached the land they were heading for.”
The old saying, “It takes a village”, comes to mind here. Jesus never intended us to do this alone.
While on the cross, Jesus made sure that His mother would not be alone.
“Standing near the cross were Jesus’ mother, and his mother’s sister, Mary (the wife of Clopas), and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus saw his mother standing there beside the disciple he loved, he said to her, “Dear woman, here is your son.” And he said to this disciple, “Here is your mother.” And from then on this disciple took her into his home.” John 19:25-27.
In the Book of Ruth, Naomi lost her husband and her two sons. All she had left were her two daughter-in-laws. Feeling hopeless and bitter she sent them both away. However, Ruth, was determined to stay.
“Don’t press me to leave you and stop following you; for wherever you go, I will go; and wherever you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God will be my God. Where you die, I will die; and there I will be buried. May the Lord bring terrible curses on me, and worse ones as well, if anything but death separates you and me.” Ruth 1:17
The Lord intended for Ruth to stay by Naomi’s side. And because of her willingness to never leave Naomi through loss, grief, hopelessness and bitterness, she had found her Kinsmen Redeemer, Boaz.
Our Rescuer ,Jesus’, lineage was continued and secured because a selfless widow was determined to stick by and comfort her mother-in-law.
Out of loss springs forth new life.
After loss, in Jesus, there is always resurrection.
Yes, you will see your saved loved ones again on that Great Day but until then…you don’t have to do this alone.